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Fidelity
3 Little Mistakes That Could Cost Your Your Marriage
By Beth Young, Senior Editor of MarriageAdvice.com
Just because you and your spouse pledged to love
and nurture each other through all your days, doesn't guarantee that
your marriage will remain vital and strong. Here are 3 little
mistakes, that left unchecked, could cost you your marriage.
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Little Mistake #1 - Not Hearing Your Spouses Plea
For Attention ______________________________________________________
With many responsibilities pulling at us each day,
it is easy to fall into a routine of life that may not include
nurturing our relationship with our spouse.
As we fulfill our responsibilities at work, in our
community and with our children, we may not always save some of our
time and energy for our spouse. When this happens, our spouse will
usually make a subtle plea to be notice and nurtured. If this subtle
plea goes unnoticed, they may even make a more direct plea for
attention.
If we assume that they know we love them and
continue to spend our time and energies on these other efforts, we
are sending a very clear message that these other responsibilities
are more important to us than our relationship with our spouse.
It's critical to let our spouse know on a daily
basis that we value our life and relationship with them.
It can be as simple as making sure they always get
a passionate kiss on their way in and out of the house with a heart
felt "I love you". However, it will also require making a conscious
effort to include them in our busy life.
After all, our job, community efforts and children
will only be a part of our life for a defined period of time,
whereas our spouse will be with us for a life-time. Keep your
priorities in order, and you will go far in avoiding "Little Mistake
#1." ______________________________________________________
Little Mistake #2 - Sharing Intimate, Personal
Information With
Someone Other Than Our Spouse
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In many cases, the first step down the path of
infidelity starts with individuals sharing intimate personal
information with someone other than our spouse on a regular basis.
Either party could mistake this for feelings of
intimacy, and secrecy only encourages this intimacy to grow.
Personal, intimate discussions should be reserved for our spouse, it
is only there that we will receive the best counsel from someone who
deeply loves us and has our best interests as the heart of their
desires. __________________________________________________
Little Mistake #3 - Harboring Ill Feelings About
Your Spouse ___________________________________________________
There is nothing wrong with having less than
loving feelings about your spouse when you've had a major
disagreement. However, there is something wrong with harboring those
ill feelings to the point of harming your relationship.
If these feelings are fed, they will grow into
being critical about every aspect of our spouses imperfections.
Following those times of disagreement, help yourself to calm down by
reminding yourself of your spouse's many positive traits and you'll
be surprised at how easily those loving feelings return.
By avoiding these "3 Little Mistakes", your
marriage can remain strong and vital for a lifetime.
About the author. Beth Young is the Senior Editor
of the leading marriage advise web site, Marriage Advise.com. For
more articles related to strengthening your marriage go to http://www.marriageadvice.com.
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