Every Foundation Requires A Promise…
…FOR NOW AND FOR ALWAYS
As holidays approach us, be it Memorial Day, Fourth of July, Thanksgiving or Christmas, we often find ourselves reaching out to family and getting together. It may be at the beach, around the BBQ, or at a fancy festive table, but it shares the commonality of “being together as family.”
If we cannot actually BE with our family at these times, we often find ourselves wishing it were so. Family is the most important thing of all. And the centerpiece of family, the linchpin around which all evolves, is marriage. So – let’s talk about that.
Love isn’t Enough
It’s the lucky few who find themselves a match made in heaven. The rest of us have to do it the hard way, if we’re going to do it all. Love is NEVER ENOUGH. You have to work hard to make a relationship last. And even then, success may not look like what you thought it would be.
Most people want stability in their lives, especially in their home lives. Otherwise, it’s not easy to figure out where you stand in the world. But we want satisfaction, too. Sometimes it’s hard to bring stability and satisfaction together. Most likely, in a stable marriage, satisfaction comes and goes.
Changes come along and they challenge you. You meet the challenge or you don’t. Sometimes you go through periods of difficulty. Through it all, the thing that keeps a marriage together is a simple truth. We made a promise and we are going to keep that promise. We’ll work it out, no matter what.
In the words of Thornton Wilder, “I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even marry you because I loved you. I MARRIED you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults. And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage. And when the children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that promise.”
About the Author:
Jann is a licensed clinical social worker and licensed marriage and family counselor in addition to being a certified divorce coach and trained mediator. Bringing over 30 years of clinical experience, she has assisted individuals, couples and families in coping with their most important challenges and conflicts, providing the necessary insight to assist in creating possibilities for change. You can visit her website at: www.JannGlasser.com