Archive for the ‘Communication’ Category

10 Steps to Improve Communication

Communication Communication with couples can be difficult. If you are struggling to communicate effectively with your partner, couples counseling has been proven to support improved communication between couples. 10 Tips for Healthy Communication 1. Stop focusing on what your partner is doing wrong and focus on what you could be... more

Active Listening Exercise

Communication For years now, I have been teaching my patients the active listening exercise. Client-Centered Therapy When I attended Cal State Fullerton University in the late seventies and early eighties, while working on my Masters Degree in Counseling, we were expected to demonstrate competency in several different types of psychotherapy.... more

Is Technology Your Marriage’s New Third Wheel?

Communication Here’s a dismal (and all too familiar) scene: husband and wife sit side by side on the couch, TV on, not saying a word. The wife thumbs through an article on her smartphone, occasionally glancing up at the television, and all the while the husband plays a game on... more

10 Barriers to Communication in Marriage

Communication As a marriage therapist, you learn a lot of what not to do in a relationship by sitting across from couples who are struggling on a daily basis with communication. Hopefully it will be helpful for you to see some barriers and pick a couple that you want to... more

Honesty and Openness Up Front

Communication While arguments in marriages aren’t terribly uncommon, most people do their best to avoid them. This is, of course, a good idea most of the time, but it makes all the difference in the world HOW you are going about avoiding butting heads with your spouse. Hiding the Little... more

We Just Can’t Stop Arguing!

Communication Perhaps the most common reason that couples come to see me for marriage counseling is because they just can’t stop arguing. Whatever the topic, they just seem to end up arguing about it. They argue about whose turn it is to take the dog out, what activity to sign... more

Multitasking in Marriage

Communication Most of us think we are pretty good at multitasking, or doing several tasks at once. I have often heard people brag that they are good at multitasking. However, multitasking and communication go together like oil and water. They cannot blend. The Gift of Multitasking While there are some... more

The Root of the Problem: Threat and Neglect

Communication When couples argue, it is all to common for things to get blown out of proportion – for hurtful remarks to be made, old grudges brought up… Why is it so easy to get off topic, to argue about anything and everything other than the issue at hand? The... more

Marriage and Relationship Care – Avoid the Need To Be Right

Communication Relationship and marriage is more about caring than arguing. This article suggests tips on how to avoid getting stuck in needing to be right. The Problem of Needing To Be Right Relationships are fundamentally about caring for each other. It’s important to consider the cost of arguing the details... more

We Just Have Problems Communicating

Communication Of all the reasons couples come to me for counseling the most common reason is because “we just have problems communicating”. In fact, I have heard this so often that when couples call me and setup an appointment “to help us learn to communicate better” I can’t help but... more