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Counseling
Seeing A Marriage Counselor Is Not
Admitting Defeat...It's Admitting There Is Hope
By Beth Young, Senior Editor of MarriageAdvice.com
Many people seem to think that marriage counseling
is a last resort when your marriage is crippled beyond repair.
However, the wise couple will seek marriage counseling as soon as
they come to the realization that their marriage is facing a problem
that neither of them have the experience to solve. Because of their
abiding love for each other, they are willing to do whatever it
takes to shore up the area of their marriage that was affected by
erosion.
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Marriage Counsel Can Be Difficult
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Even though both spouses know that marriage
counseling is an important step, actually feeling comfortable with
the counseling is a whole different story. It's often more difficult
for men to seek outside help for their relationships. They hate not
being able to figure something out on their own. Men, by nature, are
trained to be independent and self-sufficient. They would rather
learn from doing than from discussing. Therefore, it is more
difficult for men to see a therapist. So if the idea of having a
male therapist makes a big difference to him, this would be good
time to give in to his request.
For men who are uncomfortable with the thought of
a one-on-one session, many therapists say group therapy is a good
starting point. Sitting down in a group setting--usually with six to
ten other individuals--can address feelings of isolation and improve
interpersonal skills. Men in our culture may have more fear of
intimacy and revealing emotions, and difficulty with empathy or with
'soft' emotions. By helping people share their concerns and fears,
groups can ease men past these barriers to treatment. Therapy groups
with a narrow focus can be especially appealing to guys.
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Counseling Is Worth The Effort
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Remember, do whatever it takes to make it as easy
as possible to seek counseling. Your efforts will be well rewarded
and you will realize that your journey through counseling not only
helped resolve your initial concern, you marriage relationship has
broadened and grown to newer heights.
About the author. Beth Young is the Senior Editor
of the leading marriage advise web site, Marriage Advise.com. For
more articles related to strengthening your marriage go to http://www.marriageadvice.com.
MarriageAdvise.Com is a web site dedicated to a community of
husbands and wives who are working to create happy marriages that
last a lifetime.
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