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Relationship
Mistake Proof Your Marriage: Do You Make These 3 Common Mistakes
In Your Marriage?
By Beth Young, MarriageAdvice.com Senior Editor
Although we may have the best intentions in building a strong
relationship with our spouse, it's easy to fall into a few traps
that will do more to undermine our relationship rather than build
our relationship.
Mistake #1 - Criticizing Your
Spouse
It's easy to criticize your spouse for not being
perfect while we ignore our own imperfections. We need to focus on
what we can do and give to our relationship rather than on whether
or not our spouse has imperfections or idiosyncrasies that bother
us.
After all, there is a good chance that you knew
about those imperfections long before you married them. Yet, you
made a decision that in the grand scheme of things they really
didn't matter. Well, you were right, they really don't matter and
you need to get over it!
Instead of wasting your energy dwelling on their
faults, use your energy to create a balance in your life between
family, friends, work, sports, hobbies, recreation, and other
interests.
When you work on your own life, you are less
likely to hyper focus on the imperfections of your spouse.
Mistake #2 - Making Fun of Your
Spouse
A common mistake made by many in their marriage
relationship is to use their spouse as the source of humorous
material for their conversations with others.
They may say that it's just in jest, and their
spouse is secure in their relationship and knows they are kidding;
however, anytime we are willing to say things to make light of our
spouse, we are treading on sacred ground and better take a step
back.
Cutting remarks, even in jest, cut nonetheless and
why would anyone want to cut someone who is the focal point of their
existence?
Mistake #3 - Assuming
Your Work Is Done
Now that you have caught and married the person of your dreams it's
easy to be lulled into a belief that the real work of a marriage
relationship is done once the "I Do's" are said.
However, it is really just the beginning of
discovering and nurturing a relationship that will last a life time.
Keeping love alive in a marriage requires work and communication.
That means that you should talk daily about things of interest, of
importance to your family and your marriage.
It's also a good idea to have a weekly date night
that is free from the distractions of family and work to help your
marriage grow in depth and magnitude.
As you side step these common mistakes in your
marriage, you will discover a more intense relationship in your
marriage than you had ever imagined possible when you first started
down the road with your spouse.
About the author. Beth Young is the Senior Editor
of the leading marriage advise web site, Marriage Advise.com. For
more articles related to strengthening your marriage go to
http://www.marriageadvice.com.
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