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Romance
Relationships -- How Information Kills Passion and Underminds
Sexual Health
By Erik Kampe M.S.
Information that kills relationships refers to an outcome that happens
when you just learn terms and facts without a meaningful context -- it is
the passive reception of information.
I call this content-focused learning and it
kills passion in the bedroom and neuters any self-improvement effort. In
content-focused learning, actions are completed without understanding the
relationships between the terms and facts.
Think of robotic actions - when sexual
health is approached through content focused learning it will always fail
to produce any lasting passion or improved sexual health. The classic
example to illustrate this danger is the plethora of books on sexual
techniques to improve sex life (i.e. improve your orgasm in 3 steps).
As your Intuition knows, techniques alone
are not sufficient because they are very limited in what they can do to
improve sexual relationship and pleasure. Instructions for your lover to
move their fingers in figure 8 motions around the clitoris with three
pounds of pressure rarely translate into an intense orgasm for women.
We all have fallen into this trap at one
time or another -- how many of us have purchased or borrowed a Kama Sutra
book? What where the results? Think of the attitude you and your partner
had towards using the book as a guide? Was it constructive?
Did you try variations and seek and learn
from each other outside of the information in the book? Did you share your
understanding of the picture with your partner?
Or did you passively look at the pictures
and try various positions moving from one position to the other -- judging
the positions as stupid or too difficult? Can you now understand how
information can kill your sexual relationships? Building passion through
understanding is a creative and constructive act.
When information is used to construct new
understanding, outside the source of the original information, a new
relationship between things and people emerge - creativity will always
spark passion and lead to fulfillment of desire.
Ultimately, sexual problems exist within
the context of a relationship and in life -- they are not only about
bodies and bedrooms.
In the real world sexual techniques must
exist within a context between lovers. No book can account for all the
contextual details of their readers. Information as content always has
limited value - it is only a starting point and should never be confused
with knowing.
What to do...
Learn how to recognize when you fall into
the content-learning trap and attempt to apply techniques and tips as an
experiment. Play with the ideas rather that expect specific results.
Author: Erik Kampe M.S., is a health author
and expert in experiential learning. Erik removes the confusion of
information overload and leads his clients in a process that teaches them
how to become their own health expert. Experience an Odyssey of Body, Mind
and Spirit - visit
http://www.pathways-womens-sexual-health.com
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