1. Blow your spouse a kiss as you walk through
the room. Smile, and let your eyes twinkle mischievously. You
might remain silent, or you could say something such as, “Catch!”
or “This is for you!”
2. Surprise your spouse by kissing the back of
his (or her) neck as he sits in a low-backed chair that gives you
easy access to his neck, such as a dining room chair or a computer
chair. (For an extra reaction, you might lick his neck one or two
strokes with your tongue after you kiss it)
3. Give her (or him) a brief neck and shoulder
massage.
4. Leave a sweet message on his (or her) voice
mail.
5. Send a short but sweet email. (Don’t send
your spouse a sexually explicit email at work. Save those for his
or her personal email account.)
6. Write a one sentence note that describes a
specific trait or quality that you love about your spouse, such as
“I love your beautiful blue eyes that remind me of the sea.”
Or you could write, “I love your fabulous shoulder muscles that
make you look so strong and sexy.” Put this note in your spouse’s
purse, lunch, or brief case, or on his (or her) bed pillow.
7. Give your spouse a lingering, wet kiss,
accompanied by a full body hug. (Many relationship gurus advocate
that couples do this at least once every day.)
8. Hug your spouse and scratch her back at the
same time. If you’re lucky, your spouse will also scratch your
back while you’re scratching hers.
9. Give your spouse a compliment. Be specific,
such as “You look great in that new pullover—I love how that color
looks on you!”
10. Tell your spouse once specific thing you
appreciate that he (or she) does. For example, you might say, “I
really appreciate how hard you work to bring in extra income,” or
“You’re a great dad—always so patient with the kids!”
11. When you’re at the grocery store, pick up
something special for your spouse—a favorite candy bar, a choice
piece of fruit, a small plant, one long-stemmed rose, a special
cheese, a festive balloon, etc.
When you get home, say “I bought something special just for you
because you’re so special.” Or wait until later and leave the item
with an ‘I love you” note for her (or him) to find.
12. Look for some little act or chore you can do
for your spouse to make his (or her) life easier. For example,
without asking, Lee will often empty the wastebasket in my office
for me when he sees that it’s full.
Or I might offer to make a phone call for him to save him time on
a busy day. These types of gestures say “I love you and want to
show you that I care.”
13. The next time that you have to buy a
birthday card for someone, also buy five or six cards that your
spouse would like. They might be romantic cards, thinking-of-you
cards, or funny cards.
Once every week or two, drop one in the mail to your spouse to
arrive at the office or home, or leave a card in the car on the
driver’s seat or some other place for him (or her) to find.
14. When you get “take-home” food containers in
a restaurant, later secretly take your spouse’s container out of
the refrigerator and decorate it. You might draw two hearts linked
together with your names on the hearts and write “I love you” on
her (or his) box.
15. Look for poems or song lyrics that you can
give your spouse to communicate your loving feelings. Check out
http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/
to find lyrics to beautiful love songs, love quotes, and romantic
poems. You’ll also find a great selection of love song lyrics at
http://www.theromantic.com/lovesongs/main.htm .Just print out
some of your favorites (use special paper to make it more special)
and keep them back, ready to pull out and give your spouse with a
note that says, “This expresses just how I feel about you.”
